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Shado36
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22. July 2007 @ 17:16 |
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ZippyDSM.............thats exactly what worries us she is in for one hell of a wake up call but she will not listen!
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22. July 2007 @ 17:18 |
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Yeh no coffee on private bits as of yet haha. I keep getting tips of lots of old ladies ;) haha.
I know my aesthetic glamour would come in handy somehow :P
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22. July 2007 @ 17:18 |
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Originally posted by Shado36:
Originally posted by ZIppyDSM:
Originally posted by Shado36:
My bitch (& its gonna be ongoing for a bit!!), got up yesterday to find my wife in tears because my youngest daughter (17) had left us a not to say that she hated her job (that is 8hrs a week) and she just left to go & stay with her useless boyfriend (who has no job, can't drive & is a real bum)!! She (my daughter) has only been working for about three months) did not even have the decency to talk about this job situation to either of us! We do not know why she "hates" it so much, it could be that they are making her work & she simply does not like it (she is real lazy). The only thing that she has said is that she would like to work with more younger people BUT we all know that u cannot chose who u work with, u just deal with it! My wife spoke to the "boyfriends mom" who had no idea as to what was going on,nor did she know what our daughter had done. She is kinda caught in the middle of the situation but she did say that our daughter was more than welcome to stay as long as we want (which is real good of her). We are both pretty mad/upset by this situation & at present we have no plans as to when she will be coming back to face the music & she WILL be facing the music. She will be getting no use of the phone, grounded, no computer use at all, no drivers ed & no car so she is in for a real awakening when she does return. She will also get one hell of a butt chewing!
I'm with Pop_Smith here, you need to analyze why she did it,you don't want her to dissaper in a year when she becoems 18, also love is a fickle thing so theres lil you can do for people when they are in love best to nudge and annoy her litely over it, in the end life will separate them or make them stronger so again work on why she left try and figure it out then try.
If she can't handle basic rules that might be a problem (altho I doubt shes drinking and druging and coming home late at night).
Helping her get to a point where she can live her own life as well as being kind and compassionate to her needs and tryign to find a balance in what she "needs" what the law requires and what you "need".
Being too stern is liking using the rod to much all it dose it leave them broken and confused,but havign the rod on the wall never hurts :P (reasonable punishment for reasonable mistakes).
The thing that has upset my wife the most is the fact that she did not say anything to her (or me) about how much she dislikes the job! She bottles things up, she will not talk unless she is pretty much forced into it. She stays in her room 99% of the time when she is not at the boyfriends or on the computer. When we go out any distance in the car she just falls asleep! She is not interested in family activities even though we invite her, she is pretty damm anti social! She does not have what I would call any real friends & does not attend any clubs. Her attention span is very short and nothing (other than boys) seems to interest her for any length of time. For example she went to guides a few years ago for about a month then.........no more not interested!
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family can be difficult I tend to hide when the festivity's begin but then anything more than 4 people in a small area and I can overly stressed LOL
Sounds like she has enough "small" issues to make her a nightmare as a teen,consoling might have helped but then again one can only do so much, grounding her to gain her interest wont work goign out of your way to understand her a might help but then again its a rough spot and any professional help could be too late ...if she manages to come home to stay see if counseling is a option,I really don't know if its in your aera or if you can afford it and such,even counseling is a 50/50.
in any case good luck with it and remember to keep milk,she'll stray home when shes hungry :P
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Shado36
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22. July 2007 @ 17:49 |
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ZIppyDSM, thanks for the input, I am going to leave it to my wife to decide when/if she comes home, I will support whatever decision she makes, but school will start again soon. We are going to see our doctor next week as we think that she may have ADHD to some degree but I guess she will have to be evaluated etc. We have also considered counselling BUT as far as we can tell she did not tell anyone about this job issue including her worthless boyfriend. I am not sure that counselling would work but its a thought but bearing in mind she does not talk to her family etc what makes anyone think that she would talk to a complete stranger? I hope the doc will advise!
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22. July 2007 @ 17:50 |
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@shado36..
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she will damm soon see that the grass is not always greener on the other side!
If I understand correctly and she has moved out or run away, you may well be right on that one. Even if you move out of Mom and Dad's with a full time job and your parents' blessing; it isn't easy, even if everything else is going fine, to take that big step and make that adjustment.
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The thing that has upset my wife the most is the fact that she did not say anything to her (or me) about how much she dislikes the job! She bottles things up, she will not talk unless she is pretty much forced into it. She stays in her room 99% of the time when she is not at the boyfriends or on the computer. When we go out any distance in the car she just falls asleep! She is not interested in family activities even though we invite her, she is pretty damm anti social! She does not have what I would call any real friends & does not attend any clubs. Her attention span is very short and nothing (other than boys) seems to interest her for any length of time. For example she went to guides a few years ago for about a month then.........no more not interested!
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The thing that has upset my wife the most is the fact that she did not say anything to her (or me) about how much she dislikes the job! She bottles things up, she will not talk unless she is pretty much forced into it. She stays in her room 99% of the time when she is not at the boyfriends or on the computer. When we go out any distance in the car she just falls asleep! She is not interested in family activities even though we invite her, she is pretty damm anti social! She does not have what I would call any real friends & does not attend any clubs. Her attention span is very short and nothing (other than boys) seems to interest her for any length of time. For example she went to guides a few years ago for about a month then.........no more not interested!
Shado36, sounds a hell of a lot like it could be either a depression problem or a drug problem ... both can cause withdrawl, lethargy and the inability to make clear and rational decisions. Are either of these a possibility?
I certainly don't have any advice to offer and I'm sure its one hell of a complicated and heart-breaking situation for you and your wife. Pop_smith is certainly right though; with your wife in so much emotional distress (not that you're not) and with your daughter certainly having some sort life affecting problem, it seems like you're the one who must remain calm and objective which I'm is easier said than done; when you're into it up to your neck, it can be very difficult to see the forest for the trees. Do you have someone you can talk to who can see things from a more detached perspective?
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22. July 2007 @ 18:02 |
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@billyboy...
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Yeh no coffee on private bits as of yet haha. I keep getting tips of lots of old ladies ;) haha.
I know my aesthetic glamour would come in handy somehow :P
Hmmmm ... so you've become their boy-toy then? A little gigolo to bring a smile to their faces for tips ;)
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22. July 2007 @ 18:04 |
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he thing that has upset my wife the most is the fact that she did not say anything to her (or me) about how much she dislikes the job! She bottles things up, she will not talk unless she is pretty much forced into it. She stays in her room 99% of the time when she is not at the boyfriends or on the computer. When we go out any distance in the car she just falls asleep! She is not interested in family activities even though we invite her, she is pretty damm anti social! She does not have what I would call any real friends & does not attend any clubs. Her attention span is very short and nothing (other than boys) seems to interest her for any length of time. For example she went to guides a few years ago for about a month then.........no more not interested!
Woah woah woah woah woah. how olds this girl? Sorry to be the idiot...but, isnt it natural around adolescence to want to be more independant and drift? I mean...look at me. Gerry can back that up.
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22. July 2007 @ 18:10 |
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LMAO gerry!! Ahaha. Im not complaining tho. Some sweet old ladyu gave me a "sweetie" the other day.
bless. SO many regulars, they all know my name haha.
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22. July 2007 @ 18:34 |
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Woah woah woah woah woah. how olds this girl? Sorry to be the idiot...but, isnt it natural around adolescence to want to be more independant and drift? I mean...look at me. Gerry can back that up.
She will be 18 in a few months! Yes u are right it is only natural to be more independant & drift BUT that is not the issue! She just quit her job without and consultation/advice from us! She was collected by her boyfriends mother who had no idea as to what she had done (until my wife spoke to her). There are other issues as well like being anti social, lazy etc but its this job thing that's really p**** us off! It shows a complete lack of responsibilty & consideration to say the least!
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Shado36
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22. July 2007 @ 18:37 |
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Gerry.....short of my doc no I would not say that we do have anyone to talk to objectively. Neither of us have any other family here.
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22. July 2007 @ 19:18 |
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Shado36 ... if you can afford it, why not make just one appointment with a psychologist or MSW (MSW is cheaper, psychiatrist is the wrong field) just to tell him/her the circumstances and get an outside opinion? Also, many clergymen/clergywomen are trained counselors who will work with you without the religion lectures (stay away from the fundamentalist crowd; most of them are religous fanatics who'll shove their religion down your throat and offer no practical advice). Some police departments also have professional counselors who will meet with someone of the general public if asked.
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22. July 2007 @ 19:22 |
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My bitch of the evening: It's been a violent weekend in Philly. 22 unrelated shooting in the last twenty four hours. Seven are dead, four more won't make it. There was also one dead by stabbing. What a place! Well, can't say that nothing goes on in Philly!
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22. July 2007 @ 19:49 |
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I think...that....actually it doesnt matter. Not my place to say. Ciao
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Shado36
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22. July 2007 @ 19:53 |
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Originally posted by gerry1:
Shado36 ... if you can afford it, why not make just one appointment with a psychologist or MSW (MSW is cheaper, psychiatrist is the wrong field) just to tell him/her the circumstances and get an outside opinion? Also, many clergymen/clergywomen are trained counselors who will work with you without the religion lectures (stay away from the fundamentalist crowd; most of them are religous fanatics who'll shove their religion down your throat and offer no practical advice). Some police departments also have professional counselors who will meet with someone of the general public if asked.
MSW?? Don't know that one I am afraid. Philly does not seem to be a very safe place at the moment, wonder what caused all that to hit the fan?
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23. July 2007 @ 00:25 |
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My bitch of the month: Half of the UK's underwater after the worst weather I've seen in years, if not my lifetime. The good part is the flooding hasn't affected my area yet, just the weather's so damn depressing.
Shado36: It's a difficult time, and you've already had excellent advice from the other members here. When it gets rough, try to stay calm and on top of things. When she returns (and she almost certainly will, quite soon I'd imagine) make it plain that you're happy to see her and deal with the punishment later on. Don't answer the door and go "Where the hell have you been?". I'm sure this much is obvious, but in the thick of the moment, it's difficult to remember all this.
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23. July 2007 @ 02:55 |
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Gerry said...
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Hmmmm ... so you've become their boy-toy then? A little gigolo to bring a smile to their faces for tips ;)
ROFLMAO... so we've progressed from Billybob to Billyboytoy, it's got certain ring don't you rekon?
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Im not complaining tho. Some sweet old ladyu gave me a "sweetie" the other day.
bless. SO many regulars, they all know my name haha.
Remember the story of Hansel and Gretel? They only wanna fatten you up for the pot me boy!
Careful of those grabbing grannies......
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23. July 2007 @ 03:37 |
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Lol! Anybody seen the Hell's Grannies sketch from Monty Python's Flying Circus?
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23. July 2007 @ 04:26 |
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Hey to sammorris. Again ROFLMAO. How could I not think of my Querky English background, and fail to mention Monty Pythons Hells Grannies? Nice one Sam, really nice... :)
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23. July 2007 @ 05:13 |
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Right stop that! It's too silly.
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23. July 2007 @ 05:45 |
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Pehaps Graham Chapman may have said that better, Other than that. Yes lets stop at this point, things may only get worse.
Arthur King and his Kinigits also rings a bell. So does Donkey bottom wipers. Who's up for a holy Hand-grenade of Antioke?
Sam...your choice buddy!
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23. July 2007 @ 05:50 |
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There's way too much to choose from. Besides, this isn't bitching, this is comedy!
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23. July 2007 @ 06:08 |
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@Greensman: I am sorry to hear about the death of your companion. We have a dog that is almost 15 years old, and I don't think she is going to be around too much longer.
It is difficult to lose a pet. They are family.
Life is good!
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23. July 2007 @ 06:11 |
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Losing a pet is indeed tragic. What's even more tragic for me is not having had one. We just don't have the time or space.
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23. July 2007 @ 12:46 |
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I had me a dog once, she was a Doberman/Collie, she swallowed a skewer (from a kebab of some sort) and we paid $2000 for an operation to get it out of her, she survived that, then put her paws throuh a glass screen, blood. We got her fixed up, then a few years later her back legs stopped working, nothing could fix that.
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23. July 2007 @ 14:16 |
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Lmao onya @hansel and gretal remark. haha.
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