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I need some help. Heartfelt.
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26. April 2006 @ 06:14 |
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Hi, i searched on google for some suggestions, but none of them really helped. I know this probably aint the best place in the world to ask, but i though i would get a good mix of answers here, seeing that there are Young people here, middle aged, men and women.
Well, anyway. Me and my girlfriend have been together 2 and a half years on thursday, and im taking here out for dinner on saturday. I want to propose to here but heres my problem; I can't afford a ring at the moment, and i dont have a clue how to do it so its all romantic and sentimental. We're moving to the Isle of White in about 18 months so i have to save money, hence why i cant afford a ring at the moment.
I know she wont be upset about not getting a ring at the moment, but i want to do something to make up for that, so does anyone have any suggestions? And to those who are married, how did you or your partner propose?
Thanks, and sorry if i break any rules.
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26. April 2006 @ 07:24 |
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hmmm - my philosophy has always been it's the thought that counts the most. The little things in life can be the best.
Since you can't get a ring right now how about a rose with a heartfelt note attached - telling her how you feel about her?
You could go to the restaurant earlier in the day with the rose and tell the restaurant what you are planning to do. Then maybe have the waiter/waitress bring the rose over and say 'John' has something he'd like to ask you. Then maybe get done on one knee (yes ladies still like this) and propose.
Then when you get home well I think you can take it from there :)
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26. April 2006 @ 08:00 |
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Here is an article on the subject (only read bits and pieces though) and there were more when I typed "alternatives to an engagement ring" into google:
http://jewelry.about.com/cs/engagementtrends/a/stone_options.htm
I'm truly glad for you that you have a special someone in your life that you love and care about and who loves and cares about you; that sort of happiness is what life's all about but if you'll forgive my skepticism, you're only 17 and what you're planning is a huge move. Have you discussed this with anyone my friend?
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26. April 2006 @ 08:32 |
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Then when you get home well I think you can take it from there :)
LoL!
Nick, you are crazy proposing at 17 man. Take things slow.. what's the rush? You are in the middle of your A-Levels, at least wait until you have done those and sorted out your career before marriage!
If it's true love, then it can wait..
*Anticipates darthnip's response..
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26. April 2006 @ 10:44 |
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@Nickit
Just because you are young doesnt mean that your marriage will not last! I was 17 when i got engaged and married at 18. This July we will celebrate 30 years. I will say however, it does take a huge commitment on both. Just wanted to encourage you that it can work, but it is young. Make sure you are really ready for the big commitment that marriage is. We truly commited for life and have been through many trails, but have reamained faithful. We are both commited chrisitans and that helps. God Bless.....
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26. April 2006 @ 11:24 |
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@nickit
Didn't realize you were only 17 so maybe I should edit my post:)
Something like 'then we you get home let her beat you in an xbox/ps2 game'.
Wow 17 and wanting to get married! Like the others said you're still young - what's the rush? Live life 1st.
If I would have said yes to marriage at your age I'd probably have a few more divorces :)
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26. April 2006 @ 12:36 |
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You shouldnt be so sceptic, we are very commited to each, other, we are deeply in love with each other, and really happy. My dads best mate got married at 18 and he is still married to the same women now, at 58.
When you say live life, i've had lots of experiences in my life already, and many to come. I can have experience in my life with my g/f. I can see why people would be sceptic though, the norm nowadays is for people to get married and be divorced withing 5 years. But hopefully this will never happen. We are just different from other people.
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26. April 2006 @ 13:00 |
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Nick,
Wasn't being sceptic at all.. some people get marriage at 16 and live out their days together. However, a fair quantity don't. If you are happy with your girlfriend, then there really isn't any rush.. is there?
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26. April 2006 @ 13:18 |
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Yeah, i suppose. Maybe i am rushing a bit maybe lol. i dont know now, you've put me of lol :'( we'll see what happens.
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26. April 2006 @ 13:29 |
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@Nick...same here buddy. My mom was only 16 and my dad was in his early twenties...you get thrown in jail for that these days LOL! But they were happily married for a long time and mom died a couple of months before their 50th wedding anniversary. I guess people are just saying be careful and seek the opinion of people you love and who love you. None of us know you and your young lady enough to advise you.
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26. April 2006 @ 14:07 |
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Thank gerry, i just wanted to see people opinions on here, because i know there is a wide range of people on this site.
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26. April 2006 @ 14:13 |
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Nick, I would give it some time, myself. I was 20 years old when I got married, and my wife was 18. We made it through more obstacles than you could possible imagine, especially the first year when I was overseas, in the Army.
We are still married, 36 years later, because we did not bail at the first sign of trouble. I see that bailing moreso today, then way the heck back when.
If you get married this young, you already have 1 strike against you, but if you decide to take the plunge, I wish you all of the happiness in the world.
Life is good!
GrandpaBruce - Vietnam Vet - 1970 - 1971
Computer: Intel Core i7-920 Nehalim;Asus P6T Deluxe V2
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26. April 2006 @ 14:51 |
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Good luck mate. Do whatever your heart tells you..just be realistic ;-)
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26. April 2006 @ 16:21 |
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Only you and your girlfriend know what's best. I wish you both the best.
Now guys do you all have any other ideas for Nickit on how to make the proposal romantic and sentimental?
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