First of all, what software did you use to record the movie? The solution may lie there. AnyDVD, a ripper, has the option of setting the backup to jump to the title menu. http://www.slysoft.com Editing and encoding software can override that command though.
Sounds like the copy may have been encoded with the command to jump to the movie. A lot of people like the feature. Personally, I set mine to jump past the extras to the start menu. If you want a copy that doesn't jump to the movie, you'll have to get with the friend that made the copy for you.
Well, other than a lot of work over a situation that can be remedied with the push of a button, it would take making another copy of the original through a process targeting the menu start.
