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Custody battle begins!!!
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16. October 2008 @ 17:56 |
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Any guys out there that won custody of their kid/s?
Maybe some members with Legal knowledge?
I haven't been around much lately. With the mother of my daughter moving out last memorial day,I had kinzie for the majority of the summer. Then the ex gf started reducing my time with kinzie. So we ended up getting dna tests and kinzie is mine.Now the ex gf is leaving my 2 year old daughter with her boyfriend or his mother.
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ddp
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16. October 2008 @ 22:29 |
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just don't do anything stupid & you'll have her. good luck.
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16. October 2008 @ 22:42 |
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I echo ddp's thoughts, Saugmon. I won't say that there is no way that you could lose, but just keep playing it by the book.
Life is good!
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17. October 2008 @ 00:05 |
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I'd start by removing all the little details that you've amassed from this thread just in case she/he/it happens to drop by afterdawn. I'd hate for her to be able to use this thread against you and foil your attempt at custody. Other than that I have to believe you have a solid case and excellent chance at getting your little girl all to yourself. I'd also get her other kids father and try to get them into foster care as soon as possible since neither wants them. At least they might have a chance to find a loving family to take care of them until they are no longer minors. Good luck saugy!
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17. October 2008 @ 23:31 |
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Saug, I have PM'd you, do as Loco suggests and edit all references to the ex. Trust me on this one.
Poor quality pic from my cell phone, but that is the paperwork from the custody fight, poor starving beavers.
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17. October 2008 @ 23:57 |
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Bigtoxy?
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ddp
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18. October 2008 @ 00:08 |
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that is what i was wondering. you got an alias you are not sharing, loco?
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18. October 2008 @ 00:18 |
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LMAO....
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18. October 2008 @ 14:15 |
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Bigtoxy.....Loco's other, more well known, personality. One of many he does not share with us here at aD.
Edited to satisfaction.
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18. October 2008 @ 16:39 |
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18. October 2008 @ 22:45 |
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Hey, it was late. Crossed my threads.
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19. October 2008 @ 22:20 |
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Keep on the straight and narrow Saug. Every little slip up could bite you back in the arse.(no punch ups down at the local)
Looks like you gotta few mates here btw? Nice eh?
From me and mine to you and yours...all the very best.
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22. October 2008 @ 10:13 |
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The courts almost automatically assign the kids to the mother... I would have loved my brat to go with her horrid father, but he didn't want (he fought.. I think just to make things worse) so I got lumbered.
The problem is nobody listens to the children, who really should have a say. About this "dumping them on relatives/friends" stuff.. Do you work?.. would the situation for the child be any different with you if and when you start dating or whatever again? Because you are going to want to start doing that again sometime..
Chin up.. carry yourself well and don't lose your rag... and just maybe you will get the result you need... and if I may a word from somebody who has been through this twice.. Remember you have a life too.. it's not all about the children though many people would have you believe otherwise. It's about you and coping and being able to provide for your reduced size family full time through good times and bad. It's a challenge, and just because you may have fallen out it doesn't give the excuse to use the kids as a weapon to destroy the other person.
my 0.02c Keep your cool and Be Lucky
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22. October 2008 @ 11:38 |
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The courts almost automatically assign the kids to the mother...
Not always, but it is interesting to be the only man in a room full of mothers looking to collect owed child support, and explaining that I am the one with the child and I am the one who was owed almost $18,000 (eighteen thousand US dollars) in back support.
I won by following the advice of my lawyer, acting like a saint, and above all always act in the best interest of the child. And keep the faith.
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22. October 2008 @ 12:22 |
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Maybe in the US it is different.. I know here a single father is far far more likely to be a widower than divorced. Even when the mother is a crack-whore and the father a saint....
I never got a single penny in child support.. like I was surprised. If I had the taxman would have just taken it back off me.. so no loss and no gain.
Blivit.. I can see you now.. jammed in a room full of man hating angry women all glaring at you.. brightened up my day.. thanks :)
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22. October 2008 @ 14:29 |
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Once their initial shock wore off, they were all very supportive. Most had never met a father who cared about their kids at all, let alone fight for them.
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22. October 2008 @ 16:16 |
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Father's winning custody happens frequently nowaways in my locale. Kinzie's personal laywer favors the fathers. Many mothers around here lose custody because they don't work day shift. I got a deadbeat brother that's having his 3 kids taken care of by my parents. I am nothing like my brother,LOL!!! He's 37 and still lives with my parents.
The ex got surved yesterday.She is PO'd. Now i'm waiting for the judge to sign the temporary custody order.I'm waiting for her bf to threaten me again,for the 3rd time.
Having seen what the ex did with her other kids,I'm doing everything possible to keep kinzie from going through the same crap.
She only wants kinzie because I earn a paycheck.The other 3,she don't give a squat.She abondoned them.Her boyfriend won't allow them to stay there. Her legal husband signed papers for her to pay child support on the other 3 kids,and the oldest child isn't his.
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28. October 2008 @ 18:25 |
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Deputy sherrif came knocking on my door a little while ago. He had me sign a temporary restraining order because of domestic violence for name calling,months ago. LMAO on that one while helping the deputy gather my 5 hunting rifles to hold for a while.
She used me for 3 yrs and I didn't do anything but help the ho out. I will have to call my attorney tomorrow. I guess I won't be taking kinzie trick or treating thursday night, UGGH!!!
Getting Ugly now!!!!!!
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28. October 2008 @ 19:39 |
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Months ago.. and you signed and didn't tell him to get off your property and take his BS restraining order with him? .. and they took your perfectly legal guns which will now be used as "evidence" of your violent and threatening tendencies..... a sucker born every minute.. sorry.
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28. October 2008 @ 22:32 |
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Hmm, the cops didn't care about my firearms, but did comment favorably about my 1/4" group shot at 100 yards. I can't believe they made you surrender legal firearms...
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29. October 2008 @ 05:11 |
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She's getting desparate. The paper's I got surved yesterday are the papers that can allow her to not let me see kinzie for 4-6 yrs in case I didn't do anything. I'll have to get a hold ,my attorney today,,so she'll be able to tell the judge that that the accusations are totally false,and she filed it well after I had her served. She has no proof. She said I was harassing her everyday by telephone,but I got quite a few of those on tape. Every time I called her,was because I wanted to know when to pick kinzie up. Everything is documented for the last 6 months. I haven't called her in over 2 weeks. She leaves messages at work on when I am and not allowed to have kinzie.She's a total control freak,meanwhile -not wanting anything to do with her other 3 kids.She's pretty pathetic.
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29. October 2008 @ 08:05 |
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Sounds like my ex has another previously unknown sibling. But seriously, when pushed and cornered, she has started to panic and doesn't know what to do, unlike you, who is remaining calm, level-headed and keeps in mind all the advice given to you by your attorney. Keep the faith and stay the course, it'll work out in the end.
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29. October 2008 @ 14:18 |
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Yup.. your cool headed approach is sounding good. Most people would try to start "neglect" proceedings.. that's probably what she was hoping for.
Will be interesting when the school reports on the other children come up.. which they probably will as she tries to prove her fitness to have custody.
All in all.. theres a Manchester saying that fits here "Nicely Nicely" :)
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29. October 2008 @ 17:13 |
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She can't get me for neglect,but her husband can get her. Only times I called her was to when to pick up my daughter and always around 3 pm. She'd tell me yes,then when I arrive,,she wouldn't let me have her.That's when I'd chew her out,but her husband chews her out on a daily basis.
She's getting desperate. My ex wife said there could be some other stuff that wasn't listed on her explanation for temp restraint order. I plan on not communicating with her,which has been well over a week and a half. I did go through my tape recordings and got her cussing me out,trying to sick her husband on me,and a bunch of bill collectors that she gave my number out.Also 6 months of notes that I kept track of since a few weeks before she moved out.
Jerry Springer would kill to have my story,LOL!!!!! So would the movie studios.
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5. November 2008 @ 17:42 |
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Spent 1hr at the cpo hearing. The ex gf filed it on me because of name calling. The magistrate who did the hearing,was pretty funny. My attorney is also down to earth and very funny. I brought my 3 witness,who happened to be my mom,dad,and ex wife-so they could testify how I took care of kinzie rayne. I spoke 1 on 1 with my attorney and played her a tape of her cussing me out and threatening to sic her husband on me to beat me up. The attorney said she's a nutcase.
Anywho,they dragged the ex gf onto the stand.The ex didn't have a lawyer there. My attorney and magistrate asked her a ton of questions,and showed how I had kinzie more that she did,then she cut me off. They also told her the severity of the CPO that she had slapped on me and she could care less. She had no evidence.My attorney asked her about her boyfriend threatening me and she said it only happened once.She asked what the ex thought about her bf's criminal record. She said it happenened before they got together.Then my attorney told her about his latest theft last month.Then asked how many times the police came to my house,if I abused,hit,and had her in danger. She said no. I didn't lay a finger on her.
Her reason for the CPO: "He had guns and I didn't know what he was capable of."he also called me every day and called me names.
Now my turn. My attorney tore her up a new one and didn't think I'd have to defend myself.The magistrate wanted to hear me and I answered all questions cool as a cucumber. Every time I called her,was to pick up kinzie or drop her off.She'd give some lame excuse so I couldn't get her.
She asked me about how often I had kinzie,dates,times. You should have seen the expression on her face when I told the truth about how she really was.Especially when I told the magistrate that he threatened me 3 times. I didn't have to use the home video dvd or cassette recordings,so that'll be in my arsenal. I told my attorney that if she wanted a good chckle,to watch that 12 min dvd of the ex gf cussing her kids out while she's being very loveable to kinzie-which she is holding the entire time.
CPO should be dropped very soon,then to get my guns out. She probably got it so the cops got my guns,her boyfriend can come over and do whatever because I'm defenseless,except for a couple of wild outside cats, LOL!!
We still have a hell of a long ways to go,but the ex is making easier for me everyday.Wish me luck!!!
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